I have never been one who thought being older was a bad thing.
I’ve never thought someone was uncool just because they were over 30, even as a little girl. I used to think it was strange when people were snarky towards older people, making fun of them like there was something gross about NOT being young. Acting as if an opinion of someone older was stupid because, ew, they’re old, what do they know? The logic always seemed flawed on that one…
I don’t know if it’s because I was born to parents who were much older and that I spent time around older people as a child or what. But I’ve never thought someone had to “act their age’, i.e. act in some way that society (?) deemed appropriate rather than go out and continue to do fun things.
And, on the same token, as someone who is in her 40s now, I have to shake my head and laugh when, on occasion, someone will try to call me “old” as if it’s some sort of an insult. They may as well say, “You have skin!”…it’s going to be as effective in offending me.
I did not flip out when I turned 30. Or 40. I won’t flip out when I turn 50.
I quickly correct people who say, “You mean 29, right? hehe…” when I say my real age on each birthday. No. I earned these years.
I actually like getting older. It’s better than the alternative.
And something occurred to me the other day that I think makes a lot of sense.
Younger people who are so horrified by older people end up being the people that, at my age, are miserable…because of some preconceived idea that they’ve reinforced over the years with their own strange expectation of what you’re supposed to be at a certain age. They’ve done it to themselves. Or listened too much to the misguided.
I have had friends that, even 10 years ago – in their 30s for godssakes – were so wrapped up in feeling ‘old’.
“Oh, I can’t do that, I’m too old…”
At the same time, they’d say they loved watching me go out and do this or that.
And I’d say, “So do it, too!”
“Oh, I can’t….”
That makes me sad.
Yes you can! Do it! Join the circus. Try Roller Derby. Get a tattoo. Wear a hat with kitty ears. Change your career. Who cares if you’re not a kid? I sure as hell don’t. Why do you?
Are you afraid of looking silly? Stop it! It’s GOOD to look a little silly sometimes. And it’s fun as hell to be a little (or a lot) silly.
Age is a number. It means jack squat. Live your life.